Today’s Tip: Be SURE to ask everyone NOW about everyone they know in the family who has passed away where they are buried!
I had been laboring to find the cemeteries for several distant ancestors. Most were several generations gone and I was having a challenging time to say the least.
Then I asked my Mom where my Dad’s folks were buried. She knew her family, but not my Dad’s, who has now passed away. After a few hours of work in my Dad’s estate files and 3-ring binder he called his ‘Just In Case’ book, I found an old receipt for flowers for Father’s Day sent to a cemetery. I followed up and found them. My Mom was surprised that she could not recall the name of the cemetery, but it had been decades since her last visit there and moves to three states.
This prompted me to do a quick check of my closest family in my tree for any of the more recently departed to see if I had all their final resting places. Of course, I did not!
A quick call to my first cousin to ask where my Aunt and Uncle were buried. She hesitated a moment then said ‘you know, I know it is in Ohio‘. I replied, ‘Ohio? They lived in Michigan for forty years and then Florida for 30. I would have never guessed Ohio.’ My cousin said she would have to do some digging. She was sure it was the kind of thing she would have on the tip of her tongue, but again, several moves and a relocation to the Pacific Northwest and the name was lost. She said she would confer with other family members and get back to me, but she was shocked that she did not recall the name.
So here I was, thinking my only challenge would be hundreds of years ago, and yet in only 20 to 30 years the names of those cemeteries were gone. I realized too that while there are several family cemeteries in my wife’s family that I could drive a car to, I did not know there names either!
I also recalled that I had been to two funerals of family where the ashes of the departed had been scattered. I had not written down exactly where and when. As a genealogist and family historian, it made me shudder.
Needless to say, I have been doing some family tree/cemetery damage control lately!
So my tip today is ….. even if you think someone knows where a family member is interred, ASK and ASK NOW!
I was really surprised at the answers I got!
Onward To Our Past,