Today’s Tip is another simple one: Remember as you pursue your family history that there are two sides to every coin!
In this time of the election cycle (which I guess now is about 4 years long) it is not hard to forget that everyone can look at something and see the issue differently.
This is crucially important to remember as we go about our genealogy work. In our zeal to learn, to document, and to confirm, it is sometimes easy to get carried away and forget that others may see what we are asking about in a different light.
I remember well when my sisters and I were in family therapy for my father’s alcoholism. We all shared a memory of very specific time in our lives. We were all there. We all lived the exact same event in the same room with the same people …. but we all related it and related to it …. completely differently! Totally and completely differently! It was an eye-opening experience for me in oh-so-many ways!
It also served me well as I have pursued working with family and others in their quest for their family history. I may have my view. I may have my stories or experiences with certain folks or families, but they may well be totally different than the person I am dealing with! Makes me think back on how differently I saw my grandparents than my parents saw the same people, but as parents! B-I-G difference … being a parent or being a grandparent!
So as you move thorough the tangle of people, issues, personalities, events, crisis, and upheavals …. remember that each of those ‘coins’ has a heads and a tails …… it will make you a much better listener, learner, and connect you with who you are working with all the better!
Onward To Our Past,